31 JUL 2011 by ideonexus

 Join a Community as Parents

For evolutionary reasons, human babies were never meant to be born and raised in isolation from a group. Psychotherapist Ruth Josselson believes it is especially important for young mothers to create and maintain an active social tribe after giving birth. There are two big problems with this suggestion: 1) Most of us don’t live in tribes, and 2) we move around so much that most of us don’t even live near our own families, our natural first tribal experience. The result is that many new pa...
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Includes a great idea for cooking 50 meals for parents of a new baby.

28 JUL 2011 by ideonexus

 The Four Reasons Parents Fight

                • sleep loss • social isolation • unequal workload • depression
Folksonomies: parenting marriage stress
Folksonomies: parenting marriage stress
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Three things to keep an eye on for new parents as their stress levels and social dynamics change.

28 JUL 2011 by ideonexus

 Most Marriages Degrade After a Child is Born

A bracingly cold glass of water was thrown on this Eisenhoweresque perception by famed sociologist E.E. LeMasters. In 1957, he published a research paper showing that 83 percent of new parents experienced a moderate to severe crisis in the marriage during the transition to parenthood. These parents became increasingly hostile toward each other in the first year of the baby’s life. The majority were having a hard time. [...] There is hope. We know four of the most important sources of mari...
Folksonomies: parenting marriage stress
Folksonomies: parenting marriage stress
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But recognizing the characteristics that cause stress in the relationship can help things.